john- thanks you are a genius. i posted the same question on dp****w.com and no one had a clue.
i opened up the aperture to 1.4, went into live view, zoomed in and got the focus right. then i set the aperture. its like programming a manual focus lens. you need to tell live view what the max aperture is before you can make adjustments. strange but it works.
so live view gives you DoF preview (actually stops down the lens) but meters the preview assuming the lens is still open to the max aperture.
if you figured this maybe you explain why the auto focus on my ais lenses wont work. just kidding