>I am getting a lot of slightly out of focus >shots and feel is is the gear and not me. Can anyone help? I >am spoiling a lot of good shots.
I doubt it's the gear.
You're shooting at f/14, which is going to end up softening things every so slightly to begin with. Not sure why you'd use such a small aperture. You're better off at f/8 or larger and a faster shutter speed too. 1/800s is not fast enough in many situations. Get your shutter speed up over 1/1000s as often as possible.
What VR setting are you using? If you're panning your camera to track BIF, make sure the VR switch is set to Active - that's what Active is for; when the camera is moving in a vehicle or being panned. If VR is set to Normal while you're panning, you're going to get unpredictable results and, frequently, a lot of soft shots.