I am in agreement with Stan. His points are very well covered and if I had the advice a couple of years ago, I probably would not have a couple of lenses that tend to sit in the bag and not get used. Flash is extremely important and most of us do not take into account what it can do to enhance the photos.
I would start with the kit lens and then take many photos to get to know what you can do and how things will look. If you dive in with all of the lenses you propose and then decide you do not like photography, then you will have wasted many dollars for nothing. The good news would be that you chose Nikon and their prices have a tendency to hold up on resale.
Purchase the D7100 and then learn and enjoy. David