Finally, someone not buying into the hype. When it comes to rubber meeting the road, it's really more about real-world usage. But like everything else, these sort of things are subjective. Let's face it, some D4 features (like video) will appeal more to certain people than others. And anyone can rationalize the cost of upgrading if they really wanted to - especially those who may be migrating from previous generations prior to the D3s.
That being said, I love my D3s - and concur with your points. And truth be told, any comparison between a D3s or D4 is a moot point when viewed from an artistic creative intent/creative execution standpoint. Frankly, I view the D800 as more of a revolutionary new model. I suppose the ideal combo is to use the D3s for low light and sports and the D800 for landscape.