> Is there a>better quick release that I can somehow use with the same >tripod/head or should I get a different ball head and or just >a different tripod?
Well, I use Manfrotto tripods, heads, and the RC-4 QR system. The RC-4 is directional - there's only one way to properly attach the plate to the head, and it clicks into place authoritatively. Additionally, the QR requires much more than just the push of a button; it requires a coordinated push-pull of a button and lever to disengage.
Just throwing that out there as a potential option.